Mary was the mother of Jesus: she gave birth to Him, she raised Him and nurtured Him. However, there came a moment when Jesus stepped out from under the familial structure in order to fulfil the purpose of God. Mary was His mother, but the structure had to change because she was still a person in need of a Saviour.
When Jesus was 12 years old, He visibly started to prioritise the things of God: He wandered away from His family and spent days in temple in the midst of the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. Mary and Joseph found Him three days later, greatly distressed, not understanding why Jesus was behaving in that way. To which He merely responded, “Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business” (Luke 2:49). How we prioritize the things in our lives should influence our decision making. Your maturity is reflected in your ability to make decisions based on your priorities.
God takes priority over family.
Jesus said, “For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother” (Matthew 12:50). Beyond our parents on this earth, we step into sonship under God. Therefore, we cannot have limited earthly understanding and our priorities have to shift. When we insist on living in the limitations of our natural relationships, we have to disregard the call of God. We must still honour our parents (Exodus 20:12), but our pursuit of God must always take priority.